Saturday, May 4, 2013

Happy One Year Natural Anniversary!


This past year I spent it JUSTKINKIT....
This past year I got to know my hair and keep it JUSTKINKINIT
I let others steal my name JUSTKINKINIT but never my joy JUSTKINKINIT is real to me and thats how I will always be...JUST KINKINIT.

Sunday, April 28, 2013

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Why I havent broken up with my hair stylist.

At the time i started writing this post, I was going to my stylist every Friday like clockwork. Sit and wait to be washed, sit under the dryer for hours and sit and wait to be seen. It was all I knew for over TWENTY YEARS. I was also AFRAID to be along with my hair in this state.

She has done my hair over 20 years and is like family to my own.  I shouldn't leave right??? I would ask myself that when I would rally up to endure another visit.

But a few things have happened since I went natural. I got a new job so my hours changed. But before all that the first thing was my permed once thick hair started to change and she and me didn't handle it well.
I started coming out the salon feeling a bit dejected at was I'd just went thru. The styles weren't holding and my hair felt so dry. My hair was getting shorter and shorter. I would get asked on the regular by a judgmental never at a loss to share her opinion mother "what did she even do to your hair??" and to that I would think I chose the wrong style. I would feel so bad which is the opposite of what going to the salon used to make me feel.
There was a point and time that getting my hair done made everything else on point. If I had my hair laid then I could look good at church then school and to let it hold till that next week would be like pulling off a miracle.
That was also the time I slept on my knuckles, slept on my stomach and never on my back trying to have my hair keep. I was not happy but its what I was taught. My mother had and still does this regimen.  Needless to say she is not part of the choir in my natural walk so I had to seek encouragement inside myself. Another stylist in the same salon with a lesser pedigree would blow dry my hair dry rather than let me sit under the dryer. I now realize she was lazy and my hair suffered. That serves me right for switching to another stylist who treated my hair even worse. I ended up switching back but something had to give.

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Hair check: almost ONE whole year since I started...from the "bottom"?

I can attest to Drake's "Started From the Bottom" in the context of hair. Last May I decided to stop perming my hair. It was getting thin, dry and just breaking more than ever. I knew something had to give.
It is coming up on one year later and I have really been on a journey. It is nice to see where I've been to where I am now. Talk about a transition as I NEVER thought I would be here. I honestly thought I would give up due to naysayers whom I believe have my best interest at heart SOMETIMES. I am not sorry that my hair makes YOU uncomfortable as I had to explain that it wasn't about you, sue or paul down the street but the head which the hair sits on which is mine!
I just went for it. I am alone with the exceptions of a few friends who I have sought out at work and at home. Plus the online curlbuddies I have met and kept me encouraged when I dont know them from Adam but we all have a goal in site. Also, thanks to the people whom I have developed a unspoken bond while out. Sometimes it is acknowledged with eye contact or a head nod which is like the "Oh you are natural too" identification. Sometimes I would swap tips and stories with strangers but we weren't strangers anymore! I don't know how to explain it.
I am working on a wash day collection of pictures to post as it has been a wild ride when I would wash my hair and just try and style it where it looked SOME type of decent lol I will say how I started to how it comes out has been a hit and miss. Ill try and post when I do my anniversary post in a few.
Till then here are some pictures of me recently. Just me being me and I love it!!!!
I am worth it. Have fun realizing it ;-)
My go to style has been that puff but I have recently gotten the courage up to wear my hair out to work. It has been nice to do while giving my hair a break. I even got a few compliments from coworkers but it doesn't matter because I LOVE IT! (and thats all that matters to me:-)

Starbucks. YUM!


Thursday, April 25, 2013

Listen to this: Q.U.E.E.N. Janelle Monae ft E.Badu

I have been jamming this...

Im cutting up dont cut me down!
And it feels RIGHT ON TIME! I don't care what Ms. Monae is telling us as I'm just happy she and Ms. Badu are providing us with some funk to get us through the bull.

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I wish my sistahs can catch fire from this ;-) and let them eat cake!




Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Houston Fashion Blogger Networking Mixer


On a rainy Thursday last week I attended a networking mixer given by the Houston Fashion Bloggers featuring Ms. Joy Sewing, Fashion Beauty Editor for the Houston Chronicle.
Joy Sewing
If you don't know, Ms. Joy (as I ended up calling her) is a journalist with over twenty years in the game.  A Houston native, she has strong southern and midwestern roots which really appeals to me as you would think that this type of experience and talent would come from other coasts and not the Gulf.  While she didn't set out to be a fashion journalist per se, she was what I call "fashion adjacent", growing up becoming a professional figure skater with her and her mom making her own costumes. Her last name IS Sewing for goodness sakes! lol
 She has had a varied career writing about fashion, beauty and celebrities writing or for Vibe, PEOPLE, NY Post and the Houston Chronicle.
During the discussion she dropped some gems on why she is good at what she does, blogger vs. journalists, and the evolution of blogging. Ms. Joy also shared her observations about the local Houston blogging and fashion scenes.

Joy and I at the end of the night.
And yes, I do love my Old Navy Skinny cords and wellies for a rainy day :-)
I was really enthused that she touched on the local fashion blogging scene in Houston and the future of it. I can't wait to catch another mixer again with Ms. Joy. It was very infomative and I am super excited this was happening in my town.

Links:
Joy Sewing website
(@joysewing)
Shopgirl @chron.com












Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Reflections...

I literally stopped when I saw this.  Yes! the episode of Iyanla Van Zant's Fix my life from last year. Where have I been!? If you dont know, she helped these 6 women who started a blog that tore them apart heal or atleast try to.

If you dont know I cofounded a blog neosoulsistahs.com with 3 women whom I saw out socially under our love of neosoul music and we all happened to have natural hair. Well, it was more people but as the blog became a reality only 4 remained due to different commitment levels and whatnot. I know I was always in on 10 lol
Well, out of knowing or not knowing each person various lengths of time; we thought since we enjoyed each others company SOCIALLY that we can make a blog work. Right?!
WRONG.
What started out as a organic beautiful thing turned into this petty, backbitting, two faced cluster bomb that so far has two sistahs taking a break. I call it hiding on facebook but hey what do i know. (As for facebook, I do not and will not engage in facebook bull and pettiness as others do because i would rather talk about it and solve the problem. Besides a wise person said "Fake on facebook is a very real a$$whoopin in real life lol I kid but people seem to get real BRAVE on the internet. The cowards way.) I know I have always been open to friends but as I think I see it, they didnt and dont see it that way and simply tolerated me because I was the only one that knew how to actually do what was needed to actually start the blog.  I feel VERY used.

Monday, March 11, 2013

Hair-epiphany#1

I am currently reading ":The Science of Black Hair: A Comprehensive Guide to Textured Hair Care" by Audrey Davis- Sivasothy and a thought came to me to have my first in what i call an "Hair-epihany"

 I stay reading a book either hitting up my local libraries or loading up my kindle. Well, I had to actually reserve this book at my local library as it looks like it stays checked out. I became number 18 in line so I had to wait until 17 other people read and checked the book in. But
It was well worth the wait.
I was just reading last night a part in he book about hair strength and protective styles and i realized that 100% of the time I wear the Bantu knot twist out which is a lifesaver for me. Twisting my hair manages the two textures of my natural hair and the straight natural hair. But the big takeaway for me was: OIL DOES NOT EQUAL MOISTURE!
I have been putting all these oils in my hair without fully understanding what it was doing. I would wonder why my hair was so dry. OIL HEATS and WATER COOLS.





Sunday, February 24, 2013

2013 and me: Vision Board

Earlier this month I got together with some friends and made a vision board.

Its my first time doing it this large scale but I always plan and write my goals down wishing and hoping that the next year be a bigger blessing than the last. I am an eternal optimist. Now, this board addresses alot of things in my life. Its divided into 4 parts with the center being me at age 5. That was the last time I saw myself without a perm because I got my first relaxes at the age of 5 without my mother's permission. She was HEATED when i came back from visiting fam in Chicago for the summer. A big girl with a perm but she hadn't planned for me to get and grow up that so soon.
Needless to say I've been relaxed ever since OVER TWENTY YEARS. I like to say I never got a chance to know my hair for me. So its important to me that i do now.
2012 was a year of "transitions" for me. I changed my job, my hair, men and family life where it was alot going on and i felt like i was just there. I want 2013 to be me being aware and moving beyond the changes. I want to stabilize this year.
2013 = STABILITY

To explain the parts of my board. I want 2013 to be me getting back to a simpler time. I used to love hamming it up for the camera. So free but aware. I don't want to lose that lil girl anymore.  So around the top center i put things like "the best you" and stress. less.
The top right part addresses my family and heritage. The top left is what i want to improve upon online and offline. The bottom right is the future I want to have or be on my way to.
So here at my hair blog I am going to talk about the lower left part.
 I put pictures of Ledisi, Viola Davis and Esperanza Spalding because I look up to each for different reasons. I have pictures of Viola in my creative room in my home because she gave us so many looks that in any of them she serves strength and happiness. Short or long hair. Esperanza for her hair and Ledisi just because she is that friend in my head. You know the one telling you like it IS through her songs. I can listen to her albums and she takes me thru it! I def feel her. Plus she looked AMAZEBALLS at the BET HONORS this year did she not!? Ok back to it, I really want to express myself through my hair so that's why i put the words "hair ideas" as my hair grows. Right now, i am ok with my daily poofy bun. Its my comfort zone right now. My godmother who went natural way before now saw my hair recently and remarked that it was tame. Which is true because when i was relaxed, I dyed, cut, extended my hair anytime the wind blew. lol I know its in me but I am just biding my time now lol
In this new phase for me, i put it on my vision board because its important to me. But i am more than my hair of course.
If you want to know more about the thoughts behind my vision board and see i made a few more..follow me over to TDR.com.
Whats on your vision board for your hair? Your life? How long did it take you? Mine didn't take long as I collect magazines like crazy and already had supplies in my art room.
 I am glad I did it.

Friday, February 22, 2013

Love is not just a verb its you looking in the mirror...

I know this doesnt have anything to do with MY hair or my transition but the video to Kendrick Lamar's Poetic Justice dropped today about a hour or two ago and I just gotta post! Its my favorite track out right now and I was kind of late to the Kendrick Lamar partywhen he first came out. I just saw this new cat on the underground scene and I sat back. I never follow trends or mainstream anyway so I wasnt too concerned as what is deemed popular isnt always deserving. I come around when I come around and if i didnt then its for the best. I dig what he is about and how he can switch it up and give you fun, mad, serious and just different kinds of lyrics and folks are embracing it. When i heard this song I instantly fell in love. Its a love song to my ears.
Janet's hair in Poetic Justice the movie brought it back. The box braids was the IN thing back then. I never got into braids period. My mother didnt get into braids with my relaxed hair but I always admired them.
Janet last year in West Hollywood



Monday, February 18, 2013

Sunday, February 3, 2013

This year I will.. Natural Hair Resolutions...


Me circa 2010
2011?
2011? (i love Audrey Hepburn. I thrifted this poster and it hangs in my bathroom. SCORE!
June 2012 (2 months into my transition and new job which I HATED!)
November 2012 Yea i wear this alot lol 
I always think to do new year resolutions but this year I am adding a twist. As I am in 2013 in uncharted hair territory, I want to tie in my mental health and hair health as I feel they are connected.

This year I will be in the homestretch of this year long transition I originally thought I was going to do.
May 4th 2012 was the last time I permed and I said I would not cut my hair but do a long transition until atleast 6 months which is about 3 or so perm cycles which would give me time
but grow out my permed hair which I feel will let me relearn my hair and learn how to care for it.
So this year I will:
  1. Love my hair which in turn love myself. No negative talk or indulge others around me in it.
  2. Take time for my hair which in turn take time for myself. If that means disappearing from my family for a bit to take time for me then so be it. I can only walk this alone. I dont need the commentary lol
  3. NOT be a product junkie. If i find something that works I will stick with it until it doesnt work anymore but be educated in my product buying...not just because i saw it on youtube or curlynikki or wherever. 


Me today. 3 weeks after my BC. I feel like a sly foxx lol

What will you resign to do with your hair and in your life? Let me hear it below :-)

Monday, January 21, 2013

Just a quick check in with justkinkinit online doppelgänger

Hey guys,
While this is just a quick post please know more posts are in the pipeline. Sometimes I feel like there aren't enough hours in the day to do all the things I need and want to do but I mean so well! Besides, I have a wealth of content and information to share!
Ok ok.
Remember, back in October I discovered there was a twitter with my domain name? While no one ever officially approached me about it rather than a weird tweet (which i had to initiate contact) read here in case you missed that blurb.
I wanted a dialog but that didn't happen. They just stopped tweeting then would start back up. Well I discovered the group now has a website an they have stopped officially communication thru twitter.
So while I am just opening up JKI's twitter of private, you can find me @justkinkinitcom where I think Ill do more updates about my hair and things that peak my intrest in the twitterverse.
I do wish them success as I have said before we are apart of the same movement. Just wish there was a dialog.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

In looking to switch up my haircare routine for the new year I ran across some great links. I go on long googling searches or Wikipedia strains alot. lol It's like one thing leads to another and that leads to another and so on. I feel like that joke from Aziz Ansari about wasting time on the internet lol I originally sat down to finish up one of my short stories but I am here blogging.

Ok back to it,
In searching for first, Silk Elements Curl Defining Mouse at Sally's which led to Trader Joe’s Nourish Spa which I've heard before I then did a search for haircare at wholefoods and found this:

LOVE YOUR CURLY LOCKS:

6 Tips for Natural African-American Hair


1Know your type. Curly hair comes in many shapes and sizes. Your routine should be calibrated to your curl diameter (tight, kinky or wavy), texture (fine or coarse) and type (dry, normal or oily).
2Assess your shampoo schedule. To preserve your hair’s natural moisture, consider using conditioner to cleanse the scalp and reducing shampoo to once every third time you wash your hair.
3Change it up. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different curl setting techniques — such as scrunching, ribboning or twisting — and different drying methods, including air drying or blow drying with a diffuser.
4Remember: curl likes moisture and friends. For smooth, beautiful curls, style wet hair with a gel or styling lotion that will hold strands together.
5Do not disturb. Don’t mess with your damp styled hair! Once it’s fully dry, if it feels a little crispy, you can scrunch to soften.
Argan Oil 6Keep it fresh. If you have coarse hair and tight curls, keep your scalp feeling fresh with rosemary or lavender essential oil. Pour a few drops on your fingertips and massage directly into the scalp.