Sunday, February 24, 2013

2013 and me: Vision Board

Earlier this month I got together with some friends and made a vision board.

Its my first time doing it this large scale but I always plan and write my goals down wishing and hoping that the next year be a bigger blessing than the last. I am an eternal optimist. Now, this board addresses alot of things in my life. Its divided into 4 parts with the center being me at age 5. That was the last time I saw myself without a perm because I got my first relaxes at the age of 5 without my mother's permission. She was HEATED when i came back from visiting fam in Chicago for the summer. A big girl with a perm but she hadn't planned for me to get and grow up that so soon.
Needless to say I've been relaxed ever since OVER TWENTY YEARS. I like to say I never got a chance to know my hair for me. So its important to me that i do now.
2012 was a year of "transitions" for me. I changed my job, my hair, men and family life where it was alot going on and i felt like i was just there. I want 2013 to be me being aware and moving beyond the changes. I want to stabilize this year.
2013 = STABILITY

To explain the parts of my board. I want 2013 to be me getting back to a simpler time. I used to love hamming it up for the camera. So free but aware. I don't want to lose that lil girl anymore.  So around the top center i put things like "the best you" and stress. less.
The top right part addresses my family and heritage. The top left is what i want to improve upon online and offline. The bottom right is the future I want to have or be on my way to.
So here at my hair blog I am going to talk about the lower left part.
 I put pictures of Ledisi, Viola Davis and Esperanza Spalding because I look up to each for different reasons. I have pictures of Viola in my creative room in my home because she gave us so many looks that in any of them she serves strength and happiness. Short or long hair. Esperanza for her hair and Ledisi just because she is that friend in my head. You know the one telling you like it IS through her songs. I can listen to her albums and she takes me thru it! I def feel her. Plus she looked AMAZEBALLS at the BET HONORS this year did she not!? Ok back to it, I really want to express myself through my hair so that's why i put the words "hair ideas" as my hair grows. Right now, i am ok with my daily poofy bun. Its my comfort zone right now. My godmother who went natural way before now saw my hair recently and remarked that it was tame. Which is true because when i was relaxed, I dyed, cut, extended my hair anytime the wind blew. lol I know its in me but I am just biding my time now lol
In this new phase for me, i put it on my vision board because its important to me. But i am more than my hair of course.
If you want to know more about the thoughts behind my vision board and see i made a few more..follow me over to TDR.com.
Whats on your vision board for your hair? Your life? How long did it take you? Mine didn't take long as I collect magazines like crazy and already had supplies in my art room.
 I am glad I did it.

Friday, February 22, 2013

Love is not just a verb its you looking in the mirror...

I know this doesnt have anything to do with MY hair or my transition but the video to Kendrick Lamar's Poetic Justice dropped today about a hour or two ago and I just gotta post! Its my favorite track out right now and I was kind of late to the Kendrick Lamar partywhen he first came out. I just saw this new cat on the underground scene and I sat back. I never follow trends or mainstream anyway so I wasnt too concerned as what is deemed popular isnt always deserving. I come around when I come around and if i didnt then its for the best. I dig what he is about and how he can switch it up and give you fun, mad, serious and just different kinds of lyrics and folks are embracing it. When i heard this song I instantly fell in love. Its a love song to my ears.
Janet's hair in Poetic Justice the movie brought it back. The box braids was the IN thing back then. I never got into braids period. My mother didnt get into braids with my relaxed hair but I always admired them.
Janet last year in West Hollywood



Monday, February 18, 2013

Sunday, February 3, 2013

This year I will.. Natural Hair Resolutions...


Me circa 2010
2011?
2011? (i love Audrey Hepburn. I thrifted this poster and it hangs in my bathroom. SCORE!
June 2012 (2 months into my transition and new job which I HATED!)
November 2012 Yea i wear this alot lol 
I always think to do new year resolutions but this year I am adding a twist. As I am in 2013 in uncharted hair territory, I want to tie in my mental health and hair health as I feel they are connected.

This year I will be in the homestretch of this year long transition I originally thought I was going to do.
May 4th 2012 was the last time I permed and I said I would not cut my hair but do a long transition until atleast 6 months which is about 3 or so perm cycles which would give me time
but grow out my permed hair which I feel will let me relearn my hair and learn how to care for it.
So this year I will:
  1. Love my hair which in turn love myself. No negative talk or indulge others around me in it.
  2. Take time for my hair which in turn take time for myself. If that means disappearing from my family for a bit to take time for me then so be it. I can only walk this alone. I dont need the commentary lol
  3. NOT be a product junkie. If i find something that works I will stick with it until it doesnt work anymore but be educated in my product buying...not just because i saw it on youtube or curlynikki or wherever. 


Me today. 3 weeks after my BC. I feel like a sly foxx lol

What will you resign to do with your hair and in your life? Let me hear it below :-)